This blog will help you turn memories into meaningful stories for your family. We will sample three techniques to show how to take life experiences and create a memoir to record these events. By the end of this session, we will have drafted an introduction and outline to help them produce personal stories cherished by your family for generations to come.
Helen and Teacher
Tuesday, July 17, 2018
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The Value of an Education
The Value of an Education
With the state of the American Higher Education system in
somewhat of flux, I started to think about my own education and its value. A woman’s education has been a controversial
topic for centuries. Plato had something to say on it, hundreds of years later,
so did Erasmus. Anne Boleyn, Margaret
Roper, Mary I, Elizabeth I were examples of women classically educated in more
than the skills that would allow them to be good courtesans and royal
wives. Anne Boleyn studied with French
noblewomen who also taught Charles V.
Mary I, Margaret Roper [daughter of Sir Thomas More], and Elizabeth I read and wrote
Latin, and all women spoke several languages.
Anne Boleyn had an interest in theology, and her daughter would have
been a noted writer and theologian in her own right had she not been queen.
I always had good grades, good test scores. The rare times I got a B in grades K- College;
I got sick and did everything to bring it up. I nearly hurt myself for good
bringing up gym scores, even though gym didn’t count for me on my GPA. I think
that’s changed now.
For years, I was National Honor Society, Phi Beta Kappa,
Mortar Board, State Merit Scholar, Sigma Tau Delta, Sigma Delta Pi, Essay
winner, you name it. I did as expected of me and earned m $5 and other rewards
for good grades. In 4th
grade, it was a plush white mouse wearing a diaper and a paper doll book with
rub on transfers for furniture, compliments of my Dad.
After undergrad, where I double majored in English and
Spanish, it was straight off to law school, which was difficult, demeaning, and
disillusioning. I went on to sign up for a joint degree in the English Masters
program and proceeded to suffer, yet I got good grads, and after a rough first
year in law school involving stress induced illness and a brief
hospitalization, I became a RA, wrote papers for a distinguished lawyer who
polished on death penalty statistics, came near to Order of the Coif, and
graduated both programs. I passed
English prelims with a high pass.
Then, I worked, teaching hours and hours of comp I, working
in law offices in three states, couldn’t find a full time job other than the
law office, and then went back to graduate school to earn a PhD.
Meanwhile, I kept meeting people, writers and artists, who
had no formal education, or who switched gears more than I did, to find what
they wanted to do.
Luckily, I excelled in earning my doctorate, but it was
constant work, constantly dodging dept politicks and backstabbing friends. I was sure I would land a great job at a
major big ten school or university.
Then, Kathleen Norris’s and Kingsley Amis’s fiction about academia rang
true. They hated my law degree or the
law professors hated my English PhD.
What to do? I was lucky my
parents were alive. They helped me
financially and my Dad schlepped me around to the three schools where I taught,
as an adjunct.
Finally, I landed a job that lasted 20 years at a for profit
school. My worst academic fears came
true. There was both verbal abuse and sexual harassment; I was cheated out of
pay and stock options, and watched while secretaries were promoted to deans and
chief academic officers. Until the end,
I was given raises now and then, and at one point, the discrepancy in my salary
was rectified, but I was compelled to hire people, men usually, at salaries of
more than $20,000 more than I made.
After a while, I taught all comp online under a younger,
less qualified, misogynistic male. The
corporate culture of the school nurtured this type of abuse; even a civil
rights claim didn’t quell them. They
just retaliated. I left, threatened with
all kinds of recrimination if I “talked.”
What I am doing now earns me a pittance of what I once made;
I used to create programs and courses in law and criminal justice, foreign
language, diversity and culture, Shakespeare, and English. Some were Masters and MBA level. I wrote self-studies for accreditation and
won awards like Teacher of the Year, but then all I did was teach the same
thing online . An incompetent dean, a young girl, with fewer qualifications,
screwed up my credentials and resume. I
lost my place in legal studies and CJ, though I’d been the chair for 14 years
and helped to create the programs. All the proof in the world could’ stop the
corporate train wreck.
I left. Like other writers,
I am writing. I have several books and many publications to my credited, and I
blog professional and do social media for big companies involving
antiques. Antiques and writing are my
passions; I am self-taught in these fields, beginning my education at age
3. I was reading adult antique books by
age 7. Had they had majors in the study
of material culture when I was in college, I would have majored in that.
Since then, I have read of and talked to many people who
have gained success following their passions.
They are self taught, and learned by experience. I’d rather have learned
teaching from Anne Sullivan Macy, my idol, than taken the education courses I
had to take. Princess Diana, Barbra Streisand, and others didn’t finish high
school, and Bill Gates and Rush Limbaugh didn’t graduate from college, yet look
at them. This may be the best
lesson. Education today is prohibitive
and expensive, and the truth is that in many of the big ten and ivy league
schools, if you don’t spout the prof’s mantra, you may just flunk.
As Helen Keller once stated of Radcliffe, it seems one comes
to college not to think, but to learn [what others want to ram down your
throat]. Independent thought is not
welcome, and for many lifelong debt follows.
I didn’t have that to suffer; my parents helped, we paid it off, and I
had assistance ships and a fellow ship to help things along.
Still, I regret the time away from my parents, my extended
family, and my dogs. I regret the
expense; what I could do with that money now!
I put my life on hold to work and to study what others expected me to
do. I learned to write, and I learned
languages, but I am bilingual by birth, and I read all the time anyway. I would have become a writer eventually; I
had been creating stories since age3 or 4, and writing since age 10.
Perhaps it’s time to look at the Education Industry and to
realize all schools are really for profit.
Education is not a right, but a privilege for which we pay. Placement is not grate for a lot of majors;
English and literature are being drastically cut; there simply are no
jobs. We don’t get any training for
anything else, either. Yet, the vocational nature of the for profit system or
trade school, whose culture tends to sneer at the seven liberal arts and
learning for learning’s sake is not the answer either
Myself, I’m tired. I
don’t know what I’m going to do the rest of my life. I’m still relatively young, e.g., if you
pinch the skin on my arm it still bounces back like a rubber band.
I will try to follow my writing and my antiques passion, and
well, I’m a quick study, we’ll see.
While I’m at it, I’m going to reread Emerson’s “self reliance.”
Sunday, July 15, 2018
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Thursday, July 12, 2018
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